20-year-old gives his best friend's concert ticket to a girl he met 3 weeks ago, then gives up his own ticket to make things right and stays home while his bestie and his new crush attend together: 'I scared away Bianca tho, but I learned a lesson'

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Celeste Mello • Writer and Editor
Oct 27, 2026 3:15 PM EDT

Why would anyone want to date someone who treats their best friend like a backup plan?

If I found out that my concert ticket originally belonged to someone else, I would feel uncomfortable from the start. Imagine if that someone else was the best friend of the person inviting me, someone I have only dated for three weeks. Now that's a really big red flag. How can you ditch your friend for a girl you just met? How can you not consider your best friend before a new crush?

Some people get carried away when they like someone. Who hasn't had that friend who starts dating someone and disappears off the face of the earth? I understand the falling-in-love stage. We always find excuses to see our special someone and every shared interest feels like an opportunity. But dating and meeting new people don't require somebody else to lose their Friday plans. And above all, it absolutely does not require leaving your best friend behind.

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    Two friends posing together, representing the friendship tested when one gave the other's concert ticket to his new crush.

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  • AITA for giving the concert ticket I was supposed to use with my best friend to a girl I just started talking to?

    After reading the comments and sitting on it for a while, I realized how messed up my actions were and decided to make things right before Friday's show. First, I reached out to Bianca:
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  • Me: Hey, so quick update on the concert Bianca: okay whats up Me: So basically that ticket I gave you was for somebody else Bianca: WHAT Me: yeah it was for my friend and we had it planned
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  • Bianca: So then why did you ask me to go with you Me: I wanted to go with you Bianca: Why? Me: cause we was vibing and I thought it was gonna be chill
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  • Bianca: So let me get this straight, you ditched your friend for me? Me: Well I told him I gave you the ticket Bianca: Dude we just met 2-3 weeks ago lol Bianca: so... I'm guessing you want the ticket back
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  • Me: No, I was just gonna tell you I gave him my ticket Bianca: You want me to go to a concert with a guy I don't know? Me: he's not on that don't worry Bianca: you're weird so you weren't gonna tell me
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  • Me: What? Bianca: That the tickets were for somebody else Me: you're right I should've Bianca: I'll go but NOT for you cause I want to see this artist Me: Sounds Good
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  • Woman checking her phone, learning that her concert ticket was originally meant for somebody else.
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    Woman checking her phone, learning that her concert ticket was originally meant for somebody else.

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  • She left me on read. I stepped back and gave her Dylan's contact info so they could coordinate. Next, I hit up Dylan:
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  • He treated an existing commitment with his best friend as something he could rearrange by himself. His friend had been included. He was looking forward to the plan, and looking forward to sharing it with him. I would be hurt to learn that my place had been given away because somebody more interesting just appeared. I would also wonder if my friend assumed I'd put up with it just because we're friends and we're comfortable with each other. Well, wait. Let's stop there. Being comfortable with a friend shouldn't mean getting comfortable disappointing them. I want to trust that our plans still matter even when someone attractive enters the conversation. That's basic consideration and respect for the other person. 

  • Me: I'm sorry man I realized If inconsiderate I have been ed up and how Dylan: yeah you were so you got the ticket back? Me: kinda I am going to give you my ticket and you are gonna go in my place
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  • Dylan: Why? I don't even know this girl bro, does she know? Me: Yes she knows I told her all the details Dylan: bro that's f ed but I'm glad you came to your senses Dylan: don't worry I won't steal her lol Me:whatever dude lol
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  • At least he offered his ticket. It wouldn't have been so surprising if he had taken the girl's ticket away from her after giving it to her. So I do give him credit for apologizing and accepting that fixing his decision would cost him the concert, which was fair. Still, his solution was the most awkward solution of all. Why would you ask two people who didn't know each other to spend the evening together? I mean, your best friend and a girl you've been dating for 2 weeks. It's weird. 

  • I stayed home Friday night while Dylan and Bianca went to the show. After the concert, I checked in with Dylan: Me: How was the concert Dylan: Bro it was Fyee, music k led Me: I'm glad. Did Bianca say anything?
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    A packed concert venue, representing the show his best friend and new crush attended while he stayed home.

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  • Dylan: She was cool, we talked about the artist Me: Did Bianca say anything about me? Dylan: Well she asked me if you did that a lot. I just told her the truth, that you're selfish at times and have tunnel vision. That time you forgot your AirPods, and left.
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  • Me: Fair enough Dylan: don't worry bro she'll probably text you back A few hours later, Bianca texted me: Bianca: Good job for doing the right thing, but I'm not interested anymore. Also be a better friend to Dylan, he hyped you up all night.
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  • Me: Understood, hope it was a great night for you She liked my final message, and that was that.
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  • Naturally, she lost interest. The way a person treats their friends says a lot about them. And if you treat your best friend badly, then I don't think you can treat anyone you care about nicely either. I would take this into account before deciding to get closer to them. This guy was lucky to finish the weekend without losing a real friend. If I were him, I'd spend less time worrying about whether the girl would text back and more time showing my friend that I understood I handled the situation very badly. I'd start by making plans I actually intended to keep. 

  • Dylan and I are completely solid and still homies. I scared away Bianca tho, but I learned a lesson. Your friends are a reflection of you, and Dylan proved he is a real one.
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  • poopja It's actually wild that you thought it was a good idea to make them go with each other instead. Like there was no good way to solve this and you still chose the worst option where everyone is uncomfortable.
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  • Unique-Bat5432 Imagine if Bianca and Dylan went to the concert and fell in love.
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  • RelaxYourself Bianca sounds like a smart girl. You have A LOT of growing up to do.
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  • aitherion W Dylan, too. Dude still tried to gas you up after the situation you put him in. Do better by him.
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  • Sebscreen Both Dylan and Bianca deserve better. But at least you're working on becoming a better friend.
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